How to Avoid Binge Eating

STARVING AND STUFFING
Dieting and restricting on food types and quantities feeds binge eating.

Dieting and restricting on food types and quantities feeds binge eating.

Restricting on food mentally and physically, feeds obsession with food. And the constant effort to avoid a binge takes up all your concentration.

The suppression of appetite and the mental merry-go-around of thoughts it drives, disorientates your connection with your ‘self’; the self that would otherwise help nourish you.

Breaking the pattern on restricting and dieting both mentally and physically, helps break the pattern to bingeing, so you can pursue your true purpose.

 

ADDICTIVE SENSATIONS

When I did my first starvation diet at 15yo, I initially experienced a high. – Not a euphoric high but a hunger that numbed out the shame-filled emotions, making it euphoric relatively speaking.

When I allowed myself weekend indulgences beyond my one piece of fruit per meal during the week, there was a rush of natural endorphins, by far in excess of what you would normally experience.

And when this continued into a binge, the consequent soporific feelings, in contrast to the restless days and nights from gnawing hunger, was equally euphoric – relatively speaking

Almost addictively consuming were it not for the fact that these highs didn’t last. Yet it didn’t stop the starving and extreme restricting continuing unabated alongside the loathsome lack of energy, the inability to concentrate, the gradual disconnecting from friends, and the secret weekend binges that got more and more out of control as the years went by, as did my weight.

Disordered eating interferes destructively in every segment of your life – relationships, friendships, health, career, hobbies and interests, enjoyments, and finances. For me personally only spirituality zoomed large, as I sought profusely for non-food related sweetness.

 

NOURISHING SWEETNESS

During this period, the relationship with sweetness seemed all or nothing. Starving or bingeing.

The sweet element in Chinese Medicine is inherently important to the health of our internal organs and in turn our brain, as well our emotional world.  Though this sweetness they talk about may be the subtle sweetness found in whole foods like grains and vegetables, for someone genuinely coming out of an eating disorder, sweetness in all its forms is a hugely restorative goodness.

 

STRUCTURAL SWEETNESS

Fruits and vegetables are like the mother of all foods. Their structural sweetness. calms our nervous system and balances our emotions and thoughts.

Even vegetables that are grown in undernourished soils, have a structure in their sweetness that is elixir for our bodies and spirit. –  An integrity compared to junk food.

And in moving out of disordered eating, the simply ALLOWING all previously restricted foods including junk foods is a structure and integrity of health unto itself. – The connecting back to your body’s voice – its hungers, its fullness, and its pleasures . . .

The life force that fires up from ‘allowing’, and the anxiety that calms down, is part of an equation for a freedom, and for that love of life. 

The breaking free from the fear of food, and gradually from the fear of weight and of not being enough. . . unfolds your life back to yourself, with each step forward.

 

EMOTIONAL SWEETNESS

When a child doesn’t get emotionally heard and validated, the shame of being disregarded over and over goes deep, such is the fear of scarcity.  Feelings and emotions left hanging and unexpressed inside of us, can become so scary that as we grow older, we think we’ll literally die if we feel them again.  Having someone to listen and validate you as you come out of disordered eating, unconditionally accepting and encouraging you, generously praising you for how far you’ve come, and connecting with you at each important step, helps re-fill that emotionally needy part of you and teaches you how to compassionately talk to yourself again
. . . and to feel able to feel again and manage your thoughts and emotions without avoiding, dissociating, restricting or emotionally eating.

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