Shame and Secrecy. Break Free from the Shame and Secrecy of Bingeing.

The video below is Wanja Michuki’s story on the shame she endured from sexual assault as a child.  And as a result of her experience, she talks insightfully about why it’s so necessary for a child to be able to talk about incomprehensible experiences. The context for this video in relation to binge eating disorders, is the insidiousness of shame that Wanja so beautifully articulates through her story.

Shame invades the binge eater’s life and holds them hostage to their binge eating patterns unless they too can start to talk . . . to talk to someone who is able to listen and understand non-judgmentally.

Find communities on Facebook who fully get you, like Food Freedom Fighters, and 50 Steps to Food Freedom. And or reach out to OA type groups, or Facebook food addiction groups if you relate to them.   Often-times it’s less about the absolute context of the group, but its about the people you will meet, who will so get you.

Keep intending for yourself the help and support you’re wanting.  Pray if you believe in the power of prayer.  And in time you’ll find the right group for you, the right people, or the right person

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Freedom from bingeing is freedom from food and body obsession.  The space this freedom gives you, means your heart and mind can return fully back to you.  They’ll be yours to be directed into areas of your life that bring you connection, purpose, and fulfillment.

And you’ll replace the self-loathing with self-love and a body acceptance that is going to help you heal the shame of the many incidences and traumas that have knocked-you-for-six and turned out the lights of your soul, the lights of which you need to light your way forward with.

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The death of my mother from an overdose, at 10yo, left me numb.    It was so painful to grieve, that I didn’t.-  I held back the tears.

My last words to her the evening before had been in anger. I’d hang-up the phone on her from boarding school.  The guilt was more like a deep unforgiving shame, muddled in and storied with the utter powerlessness and sense of insignificance that comes from being left, and my child’s anger having been trumped by a far worse dagger.

But the shame of being left . . . The sense of worthlessness creeping in. . . A sense of being bad and rotten at the roots.

And with the sense of responsibility children have, and in a child’s fairy-tale kind of way, I felt l’d killed her.

Until I listened to Wanja’s video I didn’t realise how trapped we become in shame. .

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And the shame heals.

When you’re free from bingeing, the self-respect returns.  And very quickly!

You’ll start to safely acknowledge your feelings  …

To safely start to love your body …

To forgive yourself of regrets…

And to follow your dreams with all your wonder, into your future, to never look back.

 

 

 

Mol@50stepstofreedom.com